It Takes A Village

Being a mom is hard. Being a married mom is hard. Being a stay at home mom is hard. Being a single, full-time employed, overachieving, type-A, socially active mom is downright the most difficult thing I’ve EVER done.

Some days I look at my life and I think, “how the HELL did I end up here and how the HELL am I going to do this on my own?!?” I had a very big wake-up call about my life last night when one of my BFF’s came over for dinner.

SIDE NOTE: X is THRILLED to be back in the house!! He wanted me to cover his eyes and surprise him with his room. He sat in there for the entire time dinner was being prepared playing with every single toy he could get his hands on! The look in his eyes (a cross between happiness to be home and sadness that it was just the two of us – no dad) was priceless, heartwarming and heartbreaking all at the same time.

As we finished preparing dinner, it was late and past X’s bed time. He went to his room to get his PJ’s on and the nightly battle over staying focused to get dressed began. Just as I was about to lose my cool, my friend jumped in and helped him focus and complete the task at hand…“get your damn PJ’s on!”

I realized at that moment how CRITICAL it is to have two actively involved adults/parents raising a child. I was overcome with emotion at how hard this has been and how much easier it would be if I had someone else helping.  I also realized how much help I really have at my fingertips, I just need to swallow my pride for a fricken minute and ask for it. I have some amazingly wonderful people in my life that are here for me and I need to get better at asking for it.

I want to put a shout out to my “Village”:

Thank you. 

Thank you for being there in a moment when you probably don’t even realize how much of a life saver you are being. 

Thank you for being there without a single question or hesitation. 

Thank you for loving my son and me unconditionally and looking past my assholeness at times. 

Thank you for being my rock to lean on when the path is too hard at times. 

Thank you!

Love,

T